"What you run away from, you run away with"
Karen “Jaaz” Jones, whom I call Mama Jaaz, played a huge role in my spiritual development during my three year tenure at Georgia State University. Even today, I seek guidance from Mama Jaaz as she continues to assist me in the development of my spiritual knowledge and growth. I experience a profound shift every time Mama Jaaz and I have a conversation. Whether it is a coaching session or dialogue to help clear my head, this lady always brings me back to the present.
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She once shared a wise quote, one that resides with me till this day.
"What you run away from, you run away with."
Are you willing to confront the things you have been avoiding?
Confronting and completing unresolved issues from the past is the set up for your breakthrough. You can try to force something new on top of the mess you created in the past, but typically that new possibility won’t last long. The possibility you want to create in the reality, will not be eternally created with unresolved mess that is still lingering from the past.
Therefore, instead of manifesting what you do want, you will be stuck in the mindset of “what you don’t want”, and you will get just that.
Examples:
- the relationships you don’t want
- the finances you don't want
- the education you don't want
- the friends you don’t want
- the career you don’t want and
- Ultimately, the life you don’t want.
What do you mean by confront?
To confront doesn’t necessarily mean to “fight” the demons and attachments of your past, but rather get in touch with this pressing issue you have been avoiding.
When reflecting, ask yourself this:
- How can I take responsibility? (I don’t mean blame or shame yourself, but how did you play a role in the manifestation of this event in your life?)
- What communication did I fail to deliver?
- Whom did I affect or intentionally hurt?
- What unpaid debts have I been avoiding?
- Which doors or relationships do I need to close in my life?
- What do I need to do to fix a relationship that was healthy, uplifting, and worthy? Or Who can I forgive?
- Why am I constantly attracting the same problem, over and over again?
- What truth, lesson or story did I make about myself and life after this incident? How has that blocked me from trying again?
- And most importantly, can I forgive myself?
The Ques commonly say, “Running from it will not save you.”
Running from your unresolved past will actually make things worse. Possibly, it can make the problem bigger than it was before, and can lead in to more serious situations that can require a “mandatory wake up call.” The in-completion you’re running away from can manifest in to health problems, money problems, messy relationships, failing careers and unfulfilled dreams.
Because what you resist, will persist.
Confronting your unresolved past puts you in a space where you can let go. In this place, you have the power and the choice to let go. Remember, there is a major difference between letting go and running away. Letting go is authentic because there is nothing to run away from. The issue that was at stake is complete; done. With this natural awareness, you no longer feel the pull to respond to the bullshit that was once there.
You are moving on from a place of NOTHING. There is nothing you are fighting, resisting, or complaining about. All that is left is a clear mind and the new possibility you want to create.
Here, you are at a place of integrity, a sensation that makes you feel whole, complete, and most importantly PRESENT. This is the place where intuition speaks to you, miracles happen, and where your spirit aligns with your deepest truth. From this place, you can manifest whatever that is that you want for yourself and your life.
-Kevin Koh